Monday, January 9, 2012

Please Do Not Let Pretty Die!

My sister posted on article on Facebook the other day titled "THE DEATH OF PRETTY."   Wow! I think every woman, and every man, should read this article. It says a lot about our society and how women are viewed.  The author of the article said,

"Once upon a time, women wanted to project an innocence.  I am not idealizing another age and I have no illusions about the virtues of our grandparents, concupiscence being what it is.  But some things were different in the back then.  First and foremost, many beautiful women, whatever the state of their souls, still wished to project a public innocence and virtue.  And that combination of beauty and innocence is what I define as pretty.

By nature, generally when men see this combination in women it brings out their better qualities, their best in fact.  That special combination of beauty and innocence, the pretty inspires men to protect and defend it.

Young women today do not seem to aspire to pretty, they prefer to be regarded as hot. Hotness is something altogether different.  When women want to be hot instead of pretty, they must view themselves in a certain way and consequently men view them differently as well.

As I said, pretty inspires men’s nobler instincts to protect and defend.  Pretty is cherished. Hotness, on the other hand, is a commodity.  Its value is temporary and must be used.  It is a consumable."

I couldn't agree more.  When you look around in our society you see women trying so hard to be "hot" because, I think, the media has taught us that that is what men want.  A man wants a "hot" woman.  I think that a woman that is "hot" is a woman that will say anything, show anything and do anything to get the attention of men and all morals are thrown out the window.  The innocence is lost and in turn, the woman loses her own identity and her own self worth.  Rather than being loved she is used and then abandoned.  It's heartbreaking. Just like the author said, hotness is a commodity, it is only temporary.

I hope that as mothers and fathers, aunts and uncles, teachers and leaders, we can teach the next generation of girls the value of being pretty. Each girl comes to this earth beautiful and innocent. It is through life and the influence of others that some lose their way and are taught that to be loved they must dispose of their innocence and become something that is in complete opposition to what they are really meant to be.  Who will teach our girls and remind them how pretty they truly are? If we aren't doing it, someone else will, and the results will most likely be devestating.

Women, choose to be pretty, remember your beauty and your innocence.  If you have lost it, I promise you that you can find it again. You are beautiful! When you choose to be your true self, your pretty self, you will then find the men that are good, that are seeking for that innocence and they will want to be with you because you make them want to be better and nobler.  Do not look to the media and to the world to find out how to act or how to look. Look within yourself.  Be still and listen to God and He will remind you of how incredibly PRETTY you truly are. 

Please click here to read the entire article. 

And men, don't think you are off the hook.  The author says that most men prefer pretty over hot.  If this is the case, let the "pretty" women in your life know that you admire them and respect them.  I do think men have a role in why women have this pressure to be "hot".  My thoughts on that will be in another post, but readers, please leave me a comment below and let me know what role you think men have on this unfortunate turn from "pretty to hot."

1 comment:

  1. Just shared it on my facebook after reading the article from here. So interesting. Let's bring back pretty!